My little sister laughs when I tell her my definition of crazy: a person who keeps doing the same shyt over and over again, thinking they're going to get different results. It has so much truth value because a person with sense would learn from their mistake and try a different approach in order to make something come out the way they envisioned, OR quit doing the same shyt that inevitably fails. That being said, I will admit that I am crazy.
Why do I keep taking that extra step with friends, and end up losing them?
Friends and sex do not mix. No matter how well you think you have the situation handled, unless you two plan on being together, someone will be hurt.
Someone's feelings bubble over, with the affections not returned. One sided situations are really painful. So you're left with two choices: keep hurting or remove yourself, while quite possibly hurting the other party. You can't win for losing. How the circumstances play out depend solely on each situation, but be assured that the majority of the time it won't be pretty.
I can only count two people who I am still very cool with, with whom I've been through this situation. That's not to say that there was never any conflict. Au contraire, we've fallen out, argued, and "broken up" on several occasions. It just got too hard. But somehow, some way, we always ended up back in each other's lives. One I'm just cool with, the other I love dearly. As screwed up as he may be, that's my boy; we'll always have each other's back.
This ending is not typical, though…not by a long shot. Even if two people come back from the awkwardness, it won't be the same as before. People are not always placed into your life for the purpose you would like them to fulfill. And most of the time, there is something telling you that, signs you choose to ignore. What happens when you ignore traffic signs? YOU CAN CRASH AND BURN…depending on the sign. Don't ignore sign, for the love of Pete! Developments and flights of imperviousness to pain lead you to believe that a friendship can be carried to the next level without consequence. I have lost too many great, potentially long-term friends this way; that is my consequence.
God does all things for a reason; we just have to be attentive to our surroundings lest we miss the lesson. After losing a few people this way, I am determined to never make this mistake again. Good friends are so very hard to find; don't let your hormones push you out of each other's lives.
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