German Theory

There's this old German psychological theory that applies to so many things in life: career, friends, family…and love.

 

Gestalt: The WHOLE is greater than the SUM OF IT'S PARTS.

 

This means the individual aspects of something aren't comparable to the entire entity.

 

So, sometimes a person's flaws isn't comparable to who they are as a person.

 

The man who figures this out will be the one who accepts me, flaws and all; he'll realize that I am not a mythological creature (so he'll know not to expect one) and will see the God in me and realize that I and His relationship includes helping me to minimize those things that the last guy may see as an arresting factor. Notice that I said 'minimize' and not 'eliminate', because although those parts aren't greater than me they DO make me who I am, so it will be next to impossible to COMPLETELY change those things. I am who I am because of my flaws. You all are, too.

There ARE some things that are detrimental to your spirit and all that you encounter; those you must also give to God. But character flaws (that we all have) must be accounted for and weighed by your potential partner. It is that one whom in the back of their minds knows Gestalt's theory (without ever having a psych class :) who will see you for the wonder that you are.

 

As for those who chose to have your individual parts outweigh your being, thank them. Thank them for making way for the person who is actually supposed to be with and appreciate you. Thank them for also helping you realize those flaws (but beware of people who project their own flaws onto you; it may be them and not you) so that you can acknowledge them. Don't pity them for not giving you a chance despite those things; there's someone out there who will!

 

I am in no way condoning complacency with less than desirable conditions; if you are in a situation that is not changing due to your laziness, lack of drive, or bitterness towards all mankind…no, NO one has to deal with you. And you should not feel that they have to. It's not fair to you, first of all, to continue living a life that is not to its full potential. Secondly, it's not fair to throw up your hands and say "Well, this is me", and wonder why you're alone…you know the difference, so don't act as if you are unaware.

 

I realize my flaws, and God and I are working on them. The man who sees that and accepts that will know that I am not perfect, but I'm perfect FOR HIM.

 

One ♥

 

The Three Things That Will Get You Through Life

It's been such a long time since I've blogged! I guess the volume of the semester weighed upon me, and it slipped my mind. That is not to say that I didn't have all kinds of crazy thoughts running through my head, though….au contraireJ Now that the semester is over, and I am forced to think about the real world (seeing as next semester is my last:) It is causing me to bring all of my thoughts, knowledge, and wisdom to the table. How am I to survive in this world? There is a simple solution at the base of it all…

 

Today's Big Topic is: Possibilities

 

People live for them and at the same time live despite them, while others see them as a myth.

 

Did you know that Faith, Possibility, and Patience have an on-going love affair? One cannot exist successfully without the other. Not just that, but you can't fully appreciate one without the other. Think about it: they are in existence based on what you feel inside, not something you can see. Even more simply, you have to have faith to see something as a possibility, and have patience until that possibility happens. And if your possibility comes into fruition, then you cannot hold onto the outcome without faith and the patience it takes for it to all grow.

 

This is a philosophy that I am 90% able to live by. Patience is something that still is yet to be one of my virtues, but I am human and wonderfully flawed; I'm working on it, though. And as a human, I still suffer with doubt and negative self-talk, as if something I want won't be, due to human error. "I think, therefore I am" always pops into my head as one of those classic truths, and along with faith and patience, it can make all of my dreams POSSIBILITIES.

 

So far as I know, I am destined to bring about change to my surroundings, in the hearts of children and the adults who have lost their faith in them. That sounds awfully confident, right? Well, confidence is important in this life game: when you're sure, then all other things will be easier to see. With that in mind, I know that all other positive thoughts must follow; I can't reach someone else without having the disposition that exemplifies what I am trying to convey.

 

Teach by example, in short. And, oh yeah, be non hypocritical…but I digress.

 

We simply MUST keep faith. If not in something specific (like that dream job you want), then in the fact that God has a perfect design, and no matter how much it seems that our worlds are crumbling around us, those pieces will just fall to make a beautiful mosaic…and be better than what it started.

 

I don't really know if anyone reads my blog, but I have faith that whoever reads these words, this was indeed for them. Keep your head up, love; change is coming.

 

One ♥

 

~Robin